Monica turned 11 months this week. This made me feel a bit nostalgic. Each new skill she learns is one more step towards her being more independent from me. The first year of my baby has been very beautiful, but it has also been chaotic
The first year
Each quarter has had its challenges. The first 3 months were a time of adaptation, no sleep and lots, lots of milk. The second trimester we dealt with returning back to work. There were very emotional moments because having to leave such a small baby at home is not easy for anyone. The third quarter brought my daughter much more mobility. It was necessary to make sure we had a safe house. Between crawling and taking everything inside her mouth it was aslo necessary to have our eyes on her 100% of the time. And so, we have reached the last quarter where she has discovered being a different human being and where she begins to have her own demands.
Sometimes I wonder if the fatigue I feel at times will be the product of accumulation or of the different challenges of motherhood between one era and another.
Sometimes I also think that I would like to have more help. Nature teaches us that it is more efficient to raise the young ones in a herd. Elephants, orcas, lions and orangutans are good examples of this.
The importance of the support networks
There is phrase that states, “it takes a whole tribe to raise a child” and for me, that is completely true.
For me and my husband, being alone in this process has not been easy. Certainly, I am a little envious of mothers who have their families nearby, because they can take a breath or a microsleep from time to time.
Building my tribe
At home, me and my husband help each other a lot. That way we manage to have some peace.Social networks can be a great help for this purpose as well. Facebook, Baby Center, Instagram and Whatsapp have become my allies to find other moms where I can resolve my many questions.
Fortunately I’m also at the right age where my generation is having babies so we can all relate, sit down and talk about being moms.
Writing also, has been a way to release the soul, to learn and also to teach. Having this blog has allowed me to keep up to date and help other moms to find the path to enjoy their motherhood.
And finally taking care of old friends has also been important. Although we can not continue seeing each other as often as we did, we can give more value to the little time we can enjoy together.