There is always someone who asks me how do I stretch time so I can do all what I do. I think that is a question most moms have answered at least once. When my baby was still a few months old I used to wonder how some mothers had laundry done, house clean and lunch cooked by noon and I had barely bathed. The more babies grow up, the more difficult it seems to be; they move faster and so they get hurt, they eat more and also own more things so more needs to be picked up from the floor. There is chaos everywhere but I guess over time I learned some tricks about the art of doing everything in motherhood.
The first thing I learned was to establish priorities. The first thing is always the baby. She is the first one who eats, the first one that is clean; her rest time is first and play time and stimulation is before anything else.
For me, it has been difficult to remove the “teacher chip” when I’m at home and I think that many moms also have a hard time removing other kind “chips”. However, it doesn’t take us long before we realize how fast they grow and how important it is to take advantage of every second of their infancy since every snuggle is a moment that will never come back.
To give enough attention to the baby, to stimulate their brains and to play with them not only promotes a good development but also makes them eat better and sleep better and this guarantees a little mommy time at the end of the day to do whatever pleases us. That’s why I dedicate two days of the week to attend some stimulation activity and at least one to travel (living at the beach makes this a lot easier).
Me comes secondly
After pregnancy, I decided that I wanted to start a work out routine again. In addition to exercising every day (which I normally do it at night when everyone is asleep) and the blog and in order to add more chaos to my life, this year I also decided I wanted to learn a hobby. Why? Because either because of cultural reasons or because of instinct, when we become mothers we rarely dedicate time for ourselves.
Writing for me is therapeutic. Exercise releases substances that help prevent anxiety and depression and learning something new and mastering it, increases our self-esteem. That’s how I decided to learn how to sew. Those three low-cost activities that can be done at home have helped me maintain my mental health and my strength and renew my energy every morning.
This is how I have found very good work out at home and healthy dieting channels and blogs; I have also been learning about the world of sewing through different tutorials and I have already done some projects.
Never stop learning, because life never stops teaching!
Everything else comes after
Clean the house, cook, wash the clothes and the countless and endless tasks of a teacher … that list of everything else is A LOT and although most of the time I would like to have 2 extra hours in the day, here are some tips to make as much as possible:
-Make pending lists.
-Establish specific days for certain tasks (super market, cleaning the house, washing clothes).
-Do some meal prep.
-Leave everything ready the night before.
It seems a lot right? The reality is that yes, IT IS A LOT, there is always something that is sacrificed and in my case it is resting. My day starts before the sun is up, almost NEVER I sleep more than 6 hours and I drink too much coffee. From time to time, I also break all the rules, and I just cuddle up at 7:30 p.m and fall asleep with my baby. Flexibility for me is paramount. It is the only thing that guarantees in the long-term to not loose my mind.
Asking for help is always necessary
That is probably one of the toughest things for me; I am learning to ask for help although many times I end up doing everything again because nobody does things the way I like them done. Sometimes I end up angry because nobody helps me but I do not allow anyone to do it either. The reality is that all of us in one way or another need help.
Little by little I have been letting go, learning to delegate but also been teaching my way to do stuff. My husband is the best cook and that is a great help. Lately also, I have been teaching my baby to do things by herself. I re-arrenged some things in her room so she can have her belongings at her height. Babies imitate everything and I am taking advantage of that; I also include her in the supermarket routine when storing food and in the washing routine when I move the clothes from the washing machine to the dryer. This way we are creating collaboration habits.
Being a mom that works out of home is not easy, being a mom who stays at home is not easy either. What other strategies have you found to organize your time better?
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